Re: You are overanalyzing.... ()

Re: You are overanalyzing....
Posted by z on May 14, 2008 at 12:33:26

In reply to: You are overanalyzing....* posted by browneyes on May 14, 2008 at 11:51:45*

> does he have to say the words for you to believe him?

I felt like he does love me but the reason why I left him was that on the one hand he acted like he loved me when we're together but when we weren't, he would say unkind things and he was pulling back.

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> Or will him being him be enough?

I have always accepted him for who he is. I have no intention to change him at all. He knows that.

> Maybe he always loved you....but not everyone is comfortable saying those words.

I never forced him to say that he loves me or to use words he's not comfortable with. I didn't ask him, "So dude, what do you feel about me?". It wasn't like I coerced him into saying anything he didn't want to. If he didn't tell me that he loves me, I would still be with him today and not ask him at every turn what he's feeling.

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> Why would you bring it up? If you don't want to question his feelings for you, then don't. Bringing it up is questioning his feelings for you. Frankly, I would get tired quickly of someone who constantly questioned my feelings.

For me, it's the 180. Just two weeks ago, he was telling me how he doesn't know what he wants, doesn't know how he feels about me but that he thinks that I'm more into him than him into me bullsh!t. So I got fed up and left him. Now that we're back together, he's very open about loving me and I'm just confused at the turn of events.

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I have a tendency to overanalyze most anything.... browneyes 13:01:10 5/14/2008 (1)
- I try to be logical z 13:47:32 5/14/2008 (0)

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> > does he have to say the words for you to believe him? > > I felt like he does love me but the reason why I left him was that on the one hand he acted like he loved me when we're together but when we weren't, he would say unkind things and he was pulling back. > > > > > Or will him being him be enough? > > I have always accepted him for who he is. I have no intention to change him at all. He knows that. > > > Maybe he always loved you....but not everyone is comfortable saying those words. > > I never forced him to say that he loves me or to use words he's not comfortable with. I didn't ask him, "So dude, what do you feel about me?". It wasn't like I coerced him into saying anything he didn't want to. If he didn't tell me that he loves me, I would still be with him today and not ask him at every turn what he's feeling. > > > > > Why would you bring it up? If you don't want to question his feelings for you, then don't. Bringing it up is questioning his feelings for you. Frankly, I would get tired quickly of someone who constantly questioned my feelings. > > For me, it's the 180. Just two weeks ago, he was telling me how he doesn't know what he wants, doesn't know how he feels about me but that he thinks that I'm more into him than him into me bullsh!t. So I got fed up and left him. Now that we're back together, he's very open about loving me and I'm just confused at the turn of events.