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Posted by Gen on May 14, 2008 at 17:21:54

Hello, I am new here and have been reading all website stories, posts, etc. and it all sounds so familiar to me:(

All the heartache, lies, omissions, everything! Although my MM is not actually married, nor does he live with her (she actually lives in a different town), he might as well be for the way it feels to me and his commitment to her. He tells me he doesn't know if he'll ever get married because he doesn't know if he can be faithful to just one. I think he just tells me this though, I think he has promised her the world, the marriage, the kids the whole thing. There is something keeping him with her and I just don't understand it. They have been together for 12+ years, he and I have been seeing each other for only just the past year and a half. At first he would tell me he loved me. I have already called her (in anger) about 4 times now "trying" to tell her what has been going on but she won't listen. I live in a small town and I now have a lot of enemies because of this. It's frustrating because he gets to go on with his life with really no ill effect. Well he told me if I ever called her again, he would never speak to me again or if he did it would not be nice. We have spent so much time together, I know he really cares about me. I've tried ending it several times and he always comes back, begging me to see him, that he misses me so much. This last time I didn't answer my phone for 2 weeks (he currently has no phone so I can't call him). Well I finally answered and told him no I wasn't doing this anymore, no I couldn't be his friend right now. He asked if he could come over, I said no, repeatedly. We talked for awhile, we both admitted to missing and wanting each other but I was strong and said no. We got off the phone, and I felt pretty proud and good about it, that I was strong and went to sleep just to wake up to rocks being thrown at my window. It was him, he came over anyway, well like an idiot I let him in. He stayed but had to leave early in the a.m., he said for family reasons and that he would call me later. Well he never called, I called the phone of his that I'm not supposed to have the number to and when he realized it was me, he hung, I called it back and she answered. Again I tried to tell her that it was him pursuing me all the time. He would not get on the phone or say anything to me, it was all just a mess. They finally turned off both phones. I left a message on hers telling her how aften he calls me and who's phones to check on that, and also that he didn't even like having sex with her anymore and that they deserved each other. Anyway that was on Saturday, and I don't think I will ever hear from him again. I guess I'm just posting here because I'm lost right now. I mean I did want to end it, and no I couldn't be his friend just yet (because that always led to more things) but I REALLY didn't want it to end like this. Me calling, her answering, and that's that. This sucks so much!!! If this is it, a part of me wants to call and tell her EVERYTHING!!!! She might listen more when he's not sitting right there listening but really what is the point?! And he gets to go on like a happy little couple and I don't even feel comforable in my own town anymore. Plus I miss him so much!!!! I need help. Sorry for such a long post but please respond.

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man .. I hate being the messenger ... Gigiola 19:48:51 5/14/2008 (4)
- Thanks Gen Browneyes and Gigiola 11:05:20 5/15/2008 (3)
  - Ooops...that was supposed to be Thanks Browneyes and Gigiola Gen 11:07:05 5/15/2008 (2)
    - don't waste your time ... Gigiola 14:17:25 5/15/2008 (1)
      - I hope you are right... Gen 16:13:40 5/15/2008 (0)
My advice to you..... browneyes 17:36:47 5/14/2008 (2)
- Re: My advice to you..... Gen 18:37:59 5/14/2008 (1)
  - You exist.... browneyes 19:21:31 5/14/2008 (0)

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> Hello, I am new here and have been reading all website stories, posts, etc. and it all sounds so familiar to me:( > > All the heartache, lies, omissions, everything! Although my MM is not actually married, nor does he live with her (she actually lives in a different town), he might as well be for the way it feels to me and his commitment to her. He tells me he doesn't know if he'll ever get married because he doesn't know if he can be faithful to just one. I think he just tells me this though, I think he has promised her the world, the marriage, the kids the whole thing. There is something keeping him with her and I just don't understand it. They have been together for 12+ years, he and I have been seeing each other for only just the past year and a half. At first he would tell me he loved me. I have already called her (in anger) about 4 times now "trying" to tell her what has been going on but she won't listen. I live in a small town and I now have a lot of enemies because of this. It's frustrating because he gets to go on with his life with really no ill effect. Well he told me if I ever called her again, he would never speak to me again or if he did it would not be nice. We have spent so much time together, I know he really cares about me. I've tried ending it several times and he always comes back, begging me to see him, that he misses me so much. This last time I didn't answer my phone for 2 weeks (he currently has no phone so I can't call him). Well I finally answered and told him no I wasn't doing this anymore, no I couldn't be his friend right now. He asked if he could come over, I said no, repeatedly. We talked for awhile, we both admitted to missing and wanting each other but I was strong and said no. We got off the phone, and I felt pretty proud and good about it, that I was strong and went to sleep just to wake up to rocks being thrown at my window. It was him, he came over anyway, well like an idiot I let him in. He stayed but had to leave early in the a.m., he said for family reasons and that he would call me later. Well he never called, I called the phone of his that I'm not supposed to have the number to and when he realized it was me, he hung, I called it back and she answered. Again I tried to tell her that it was him pursuing me all the time. He would not get on the phone or say anything to me, it was all just a mess. They finally turned off both phones. I left a message on hers telling her how aften he calls me and who's phones to check on that, and also that he didn't even like having sex with her anymore and that they deserved each other. Anyway that was on Saturday, and I don't think I will ever hear from him again. I guess I'm just posting here because I'm lost right now. I mean I did want to end it, and no I couldn't be his friend just yet (because that always led to more things) but I REALLY didn't want it to end like this. Me calling, her answering, and that's that. This sucks so much!!! If this is it, a part of me wants to call and tell her EVERYTHING!!!! She might listen more when he's not sitting right there listening but really what is the point?! And he gets to go on like a happy little couple and I don't even feel comforable in my own town anymore. Plus I miss him so much!!!! I need help. Sorry for such a long post but please respond.