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Posted by Angelfood on July 1, 2009 at 15:07:42

In reply to: to help work on our communication* posted by lillybee on July 1, 2009 at 14:21:24*

Most men won't read the article ... and even if they do, they'll have no idea what it's talking about or how/why it applies to them. They might even wonder why the heck you're even sending it.

At a minimum, I think you should have a forthright discussion with your SG, explaining your concerns about communication issues in your relationship, asking if he sees/feels the same thing. Then, maybe, you mention that there's a good article you found helpful and that he might get something from.

I've been reading your posts tho, lillybee, and much of what is probably going on here is just the "cooling" of the initial excitemenet of any relationship. I agree with the posters that have recommended that you speak honestly with him about where he feels your relationship stands, and where he sees it going.

If he wants/sees a long term future with you, THEN it's worth trying to work through and work on your feelings that he is not communicating enough, not attentive enough. Hopefully, he will be open to hearing you out, and be willing to work to see that your needs are more fully met in the relationship.

OTOH, realize that what you see might be all you get with this SG. He might just might not BE as attentive and as communicative as what you want and need in a relationship. It doesn't mean he's a bad guy - he just might not be the right guy for you. Only you can know that one way or the other.

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and here I am thinking Annie 21:37:04 7/1/2009 (2)
- I hear ya Angelfood 22:14:35 7/1/2009 (1)
  - well THAT Annie 22:27:28 7/1/2009 (0)
Exactly right catsmeow 15:56:36 7/1/2009 (1)
- thanks cats Angelfood 22:15:25 7/1/2009 (0)

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> Most men won't read the article ... and even if they do, they'll have no idea what it's talking about or how/why it applies to them. They might even wonder why the heck you're even sending it. > > At a minimum, I think you should have a forthright discussion with your SG, explaining your concerns about communication issues in your relationship, asking if he sees/feels the same thing. Then, maybe, you mention that there's a good article you found helpful and that he might get something from. > > I've been reading your posts tho, lillybee, and much of what is probably going on here is just the "cooling" of the initial excitemenet of any relationship. I agree with the posters that have recommended that you speak honestly with him about where he feels your relationship stands, and where he sees it going. > > If he wants/sees a long term future with you, THEN it's worth trying to work through and work on your feelings that he is not communicating enough, not attentive enough. Hopefully, he will be open to hearing you out, and be willing to work to see that your needs are more fully met in the relationship. > > OTOH, realize that what you see might be all you get with this SG. He might just might not BE as attentive and as communicative as what you want and need in a relationship. It doesn't mean he's a bad guy - he just might not be the right guy for you. Only you can know that one way or the other.