Re: new leaf ()

Re: new leaf
Posted by Paige on July 1, 2009 at 21:59:38

In reply to: new leaf* posted by secretly22 on July 1, 2009 at 12:18:17*

Wow, first of all congratulations on finding something real with someone you can be totally open with and vice versa.
Maybe thats exactly what you should say to your MM. Tell him that you are happy with SG, that he is giving something that MM will never be able to give you. Simply ask him to be happy for you, and to allow you the chance to have the happiness and love you deserve. If he does care about you, then he will let you go.
Good luck.

> So I think my MM days are ending. I am really happy with my SG…It feels real with sg…which is soooo scary. I am falling for him, and it’s like there are no bounds, we can fall into oblivion, which is terrifying. My career is advancing, and we talked about maybe moving in together in the relatively near future...kinda soon, but still, its feasible! Which is, yeah scary as hell, but it makes me smile…
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> …with my MM I fell for him, I loved him, but it’s like there was an ending point, which allowed for some twisted sense of security and control (I guess).
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> But yeah, I’ve only talked to the MM a few times in the past few weeks/month since I’ve been with my SG. And each time, I’ve felt guilty about it. So I told my SG about him, and that he calls still. SG asked me, “Do you still want to be with him?” and I said “No, I want to be with you” and it was the truest thing I’ve ever said. I guess I hadn’t really put it mentally into black and white before. But know it is…
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> I told MM about my SG, and he was very negative. He said it wasn’t real, that SG was lying etc. So I told him, that he should talk. But then he apologized and “pretended” to care.
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> I guess I’m asking for advice on how to tell MM that I was NC (save the occasional email). And I know many of you will say forget MM and just tell him…essentially…F-off. But that’s not how I operate. I cannot be mean to him. So please, if I can request—just nice sentiments on how to end it.
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> (never thought I’d be here…=) crazy!)

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> Wow, first of all congratulations on finding something real with someone you can be totally open with and vice versa. > Maybe thats exactly what you should say to your MM. Tell him that you are happy with SG, that he is giving something that MM will never be able to give you. Simply ask him to be happy for you, and to allow you the chance to have the happiness and love you deserve. If he does care about you, then he will let you go. > Good luck. > > > So I think my MM days are ending. I am really happy with my SG…It feels real with sg…which is soooo scary. I am falling for him, and it’s like there are no bounds, we can fall into oblivion, which is terrifying. My career is advancing, and we talked about maybe moving in together in the relatively near future...kinda soon, but still, its feasible! Which is, yeah scary as hell, but it makes me smile… > > > > …with my MM I fell for him, I loved him, but it’s like there was an ending point, which allowed for some twisted sense of security and control (I guess). > > > > But yeah, I’ve only talked to the MM a few times in the past few weeks/month since I’ve been with my SG. And each time, I’ve felt guilty about it. So I told my SG about him, and that he calls still. SG asked me, “Do you still want to be with him?” and I said “No, I want to be with you” and it was the truest thing I’ve ever said. I guess I hadn’t really put it mentally into black and white before. But know it is… > > > > I told MM about my SG, and he was very negative. He said it wasn’t real, that SG was lying etc. So I told him, that he should talk. But then he apologized and “pretended” to care. > > > > I guess I’m asking for advice on how to tell MM that I was NC (save the occasional email). And I know many of you will say forget MM and just tell him…essentially…F-off. But that’s not how I operate. I cannot be mean to him. So please, if I can request—just nice sentiments on how to end it. > > > > (never thought I’d be here…=) crazy!)