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Lillybee
Posted by Folie on July 3, 2009 at 14:36:39

Hey darlin' ~ I've been lurking around these parts for awhile, so this isn't totally out of nowhere...

I've been reading the SG saga and please take this as kindly as it's meant ~ TALK with the man. Really. Just talk with him. Find out what's going on in his head. Tell him what's going on in yours. Talk about what you both want from each other, individually and as a couple. Ask what his relationship priorities are and tell him yours. Let him know what your little quirks are ~ like the birthday card thing. Let him tell you what his are. Until you get all this stuff out on the table, you're not going to know if there is any future worth nurturing. If there is ~ FANTASTIC!!! If there's not ~ no harm done. Eight months is not a real long time, but it's long enough that you should have a sense of what direction things are going in.

And darlin' ~ sometimes it takes a lot of time to find the person that gets you and understands you and that you get and understand and that makes sparks fly and that you can just be still with. You really can't make someone be those things. You can try to teach someone to be the way that you want them to be ~ but the chances that their going to learn (especially when you're talking about communication, attention AND sex)... very, very, very slim. I really think that the best that we can do is tell someone what things are important to us and if they want to do those things b/c they care and want to make us happy ~ hang on!!! If they don't want to or they do them b/c they feel like they are being emotionally blackmailed ~ just part ways. No one should have to beg to be happy.

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- Oops...tricky finger, again... movin_silence 16:53:46 7/3/2009 (3)
  - Ya know... Folie 19:39:40 7/3/2009 (2)
    - so true Angelfood 21:44:19 7/3/2009 (1)
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> Hey darlin' ~ I've been lurking around these parts for awhile, so this isn't totally out of nowhere... > > I've been reading the SG saga and please take this as kindly as it's meant ~ TALK with the man. Really. Just talk with him. Find out what's going on in his head. Tell him what's going on in yours. Talk about what you both want from each other, individually and as a couple. Ask what his relationship priorities are and tell him yours. Let him know what your little quirks are ~ like the birthday card thing. Let him tell you what his are. Until you get all this stuff out on the table, you're not going to know if there is any future worth nurturing. If there is ~ FANTASTIC!!! If there's not ~ no harm done. Eight months is not a real long time, but it's long enough that you should have a sense of what direction things are going in. > > And darlin' ~ sometimes it takes a lot of time to find the person that gets you and understands you and that you get and understand and that makes sparks fly and that you can just be still with. You really can't make someone be those things. You can try to teach someone to be the way that you want them to be ~ but the chances that their going to learn (especially when you're talking about communication, attention AND sex)... very, very, very slim. I really think that the best that we can do is tell someone what things are important to us and if they want to do those things b/c they care and want to make us happy ~ hang on!!! If they don't want to or they do them b/c they feel like they are being emotionally blackmailed ~ just part ways. No one should have to beg to be happy. > > ((((((((((((((((((lb))))))))))))))))))))