Pulling Away ()

Pulling Away
Posted by Lisa on July 3, 2009 at 16:19:07

In reply to: last night* posted by lillybee on July 3, 2009 at 10:55:20*

Your situation sounds very similar to the ending of my relationship with xSSG. In hindsight (it's hard to see/easy to explain away while you're living it) xSSG was "tired" a lot the last few months we were together. And he was not interested in having sex at all... I was very frustrated about having to practically beg for affection, and even then he'd often refuse. He'd make it seem like I was being needy, but all I really wanted was what was normal for an 18-month relationship and how he used to act around me. I attributed his behavior to a health issue he had and depression over his son (anniversary of his son's death and Fathers Day were looming on him), so I kept being supportive while giving him "space" to deal with his stuff... but really in hindsight he used those as excuses to end the relationship. But he was such a coward about it he never even told me, just quit returning calls and cut off all communication one day without explanation.

Lillybee, I don't want to see you get hurt again, but my gut tells me your SG is setting the stage to go "poof" on you. And he might feel a tiny bit shitty about how he's treating you, but he doesn't cry when he hangs up the phone.

What's the quote? No guy is worth crying over, and the one who is won't make you cry.

(((hugs)))

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> Your situation sounds very similar to the ending of my relationship with xSSG. In hindsight (it's hard to see/easy to explain away while you're living it) xSSG was "tired" a lot the last few months we were together. And he was not interested in having sex at all... I was very frustrated about having to practically beg for affection, and even then he'd often refuse. He'd make it seem like I was being needy, but all I really wanted was what was normal for an 18-month relationship and how he used to act around me. I attributed his behavior to a health issue he had and depression over his son (anniversary of his son's death and Fathers Day were looming on him), so I kept being supportive while giving him "space" to deal with his stuff... but really in hindsight he used those as excuses to end the relationship. But he was such a coward about it he never even told me, just quit returning calls and cut off all communication one day without explanation. > > Lillybee, I don't want to see you get hurt again, but my gut tells me your SG is setting the stage to go "poof" on you. And he might feel a tiny bit shitty about how he's treating you, but he doesn't cry when he hangs up the phone. > > What's the quote? No guy is worth crying over, and the one who is won't make you cry. > > (((hugs)))