And my story... ()

And my story...
Posted by movin_silence on July 3, 2009 at 18:13:46

In reply to: words to the wise* posted by Angelfood on July 3, 2009 at 17:54:44*

...is an example of just how fine some Xmm are w/endings...out of sight out of mind for the most part..So I thought it better to take the reigns & end the bullshit now.

Beleive me I know that just the thought is too painful, but in the end, you have to call the shots. MM can go on in this current status of limbo indefinitely(provided there is still sex in it for them). I realized I had to the make the decisions for Both of us. Otherwise, everything remains the same. ((Hugs))

Moving past the relationship and getting over what's done and finished doesn't start until you stop worrying about how your actions affect him, and focus solely on how his continuing words and actions affect you. And how your own actions affect you as well.
> Don't ask how he is going to handle anything. He's a big boy. He'll be fine. The only concern you need to have is how does ongoing contact with him help YOU to heal and get over the R?

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Re: And my story... I am strong 18:39:02 7/3/2009 (2)
- I don't know your story... movin_silence 20:27:45 7/3/2009 (1)
  - Very glad to read this... Kat 13:20:30 7/4/2009 (0)

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> ...is an example of just how fine some Xmm are w/endings...out of sight out of mind for the most part..So I thought it better to take the reigns & end the bullshit now. > > Beleive me I know that just the thought is too painful, but in the end, you have to call the shots. MM can go on in this current status of limbo indefinitely(provided there is still sex in it for them). I realized I had to the make the decisions for Both of us. Otherwise, everything remains the same. ((Hugs)) > > Moving past the relationship and getting over what's done and finished doesn't start until you stop worrying about how your actions affect him, and focus solely on how his continuing words and actions affect you. And how your own actions affect you as well. > > Don't ask how he is going to handle anything. He's a big boy. He'll be fine. The only concern you need to have is how does ongoing contact with him help YOU to heal and get over the R?