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Posted by KatyMary on July 29, 2010 at 10:07:49

I'm chair of the parish council in my church. I was called in last week, to see the Pastor. The pastor told me someone had reported seeing me with my MM (who is the organist and cantor). My MM has been separated from his W for three years and she has never been to our church. Currently, my MM is seeing her as they decide whether to get back together or divorce and he's seeing me and we all three of us know about the other. The priest asked if my MM was seeing me...

I asked him if I was managing my role as Parish Council Chair appropriately? I asked if I had tried to use my role to innapropriately advance my MM? When he said I had been appropriate in my role in all ways...I told him my personal life had no bearing and refused to answer the question. If someone wanted to be Parish Chair in my place, then I am happy to resign (hate doing it - the priest is the one who begged me to do it). He refused my resignation. I reminded him, that while my divorce isn't final yet, I am free to 'date' and so is my 'MM'. Maybe not in the eyes of the Catholic Church, but in the eyes of the non-religious community, we can see who we like. The priest agreed, but warned me the organist seems to be a bit of a casanova and men with that 'condition' can break hearts. He's such a nice man.

Anyway, I found it interesting that someone saw us and felt compelled to talk to the Parish Priest about it. I am the Scarlet woman in the church...which is interesting...because my MM's name seems to be solid gold. That seems hyspocritical to me. I'm the fallen woman, so what is he? Anyway, I told my MM about it and he went to talk to the priest and said that we had been together and that it was no one's business but ours and if he had a problem with it, we could find another church. The priest said not to worry - he knows our situation, but thought we should know people talk and people don't know we're separated from our spouses.

I don't know who it was that saw us. But the next day, it was hot in the choir loft and I nearly fainted (I have a health problem that's being investigated) while singing in my MM's choir. I had my kids with me. My MM ended up taking me and the kids to the coffee shop after church because I was white and shaky and couldn't drive and we sat in my minivan and he bought us all lunch (My kids knew him before we were ever together, though they have no idea that Mummy dates - that is all kept clear away from them). What was funny was, everyone goes to this place after church. So there we were, all together, having a picnic in my car and waving to the other parishoners...and the problem went away. There's no story here, nothing inappropriate, nothing to talk about.

But, wow. I never knew my private life could/would be of any interest to any but myself and I'm dying to know who blabbed to the priest. He said it was a woman, a parishioner.

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> I'm chair of the parish council in my church. I was called in last week, to see the Pastor. The pastor told me someone had reported seeing me with my MM (who is the organist and cantor). My MM has been separated from his W for three years and she has never been to our church. Currently, my MM is seeing her as they decide whether to get back together or divorce and he's seeing me and we all three of us know about the other. The priest asked if my MM was seeing me... > > I asked him if I was managing my role as Parish Council Chair appropriately? I asked if I had tried to use my role to innapropriately advance my MM? When he said I had been appropriate in my role in all ways...I told him my personal life had no bearing and refused to answer the question. If someone wanted to be Parish Chair in my place, then I am happy to resign (hate doing it - the priest is the one who begged me to do it). He refused my resignation. I reminded him, that while my divorce isn't final yet, I am free to 'date' and so is my 'MM'. Maybe not in the eyes of the Catholic Church, but in the eyes of the non-religious community, we can see who we like. The priest agreed, but warned me the organist seems to be a bit of a casanova and men with that 'condition' can break hearts. He's such a nice man. > > Anyway, I found it interesting that someone saw us and felt compelled to talk to the Parish Priest about it. I am the Scarlet woman in the church...which is interesting...because my MM's name seems to be solid gold. That seems hyspocritical to me. I'm the fallen woman, so what is he? Anyway, I told my MM about it and he went to talk to the priest and said that we had been together and that it was no one's business but ours and if he had a problem with it, we could find another church. The priest said not to worry - he knows our situation, but thought we should know people talk and people don't know we're separated from our spouses. > > I don't know who it was that saw us. But the next day, it was hot in the choir loft and I nearly fainted (I have a health problem that's being investigated) while singing in my MM's choir. I had my kids with me. My MM ended up taking me and the kids to the coffee shop after church because I was white and shaky and couldn't drive and we sat in my minivan and he bought us all lunch (My kids knew him before we were ever together, though they have no idea that Mummy dates - that is all kept clear away from them). What was funny was, everyone goes to this place after church. So there we were, all together, having a picnic in my car and waving to the other parishoners...and the problem went away. There's no story here, nothing inappropriate, nothing to talk about. > > But, wow. I never knew my private life could/would be of any interest to any but myself and I'm dying to know who blabbed to the priest. He said it was a woman, a parishioner.