Re: Came to my senses ()

Re: Came to my senses
Posted by Orchid on August 1, 2010 at 07:27:58

In reply to: Re: Came to my senses* posted by Sasha on July 31, 2010 at 11:30:01*

> Dang Orchid that article is Me not really my MM... He wanted the commitment yrs ago when we were together for 4 yrs, I was the one that ran at the first sign he was about to propose. Even my H knows that the only reason I am still here is becuase we got married quickly, within 6 months of knowing each other and it is mostly the legal issue that I feel I am obliged to stay and at least work on it but it probably will not be for much long, we are up to unlucky 13 yrs. Yes I love my H dearly and I have only cheated on him with this one MM and I know if he was free and didnt feel I would "stomp on his heart" his words again, he would commit to me in a heart beat. But I doubt if he was free and clear that I would want him.

Where do you think your fears stem from?
Typically,people who fear abandonment,fear commitment from
what I have read.And you certainly aren't the only woman out here
who has this problem.
It all comes down to the fear we all have of getting hurt thanks to some trama or abandonment in our pasts.Even your H and MM seem to enjoy 'chasing' you for a full commitment knowing you can't or won't.Not healthy for them either.

For every ying there is a yang.

http://www.abandonment.net/abando.frame.html

"Coming to your senses" is hopefully about knowing you will ultimately hurt this MM if you lead him on to no where again.
Figure out where all this stems from and set yourself free!

http://www.eioba.com/a50632/what_to_do_with_a_woman_who_has_commitment_phobia

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> > Dang Orchid that article is Me not really my MM... He wanted the commitment yrs ago when we were together for 4 yrs, I was the one that ran at the first sign he was about to propose. Even my H knows that the only reason I am still here is becuase we got married quickly, within 6 months of knowing each other and it is mostly the legal issue that I feel I am obliged to stay and at least work on it but it probably will not be for much long, we are up to unlucky 13 yrs. Yes I love my H dearly and I have only cheated on him with this one MM and I know if he was free and didnt feel I would "stomp on his heart" his words again, he would commit to me in a heart beat. But I doubt if he was free and clear that I would want him. > > > Where do you think your fears stem from? > Typically,people who fear abandonment,fear commitment from > what I have read.And you certainly aren't the only woman out here > who has this problem. > It all comes down to the fear we all have of getting hurt thanks to some trama or abandonment in our pasts.Even your H and MM seem to enjoy 'chasing' you for a full commitment knowing you can't or won't.Not healthy for them either. > > For every ying there is a yang. > > http://www.abandonment.net/abando.frame.html > > "Coming to your senses" is hopefully about knowing you will ultimately hurt this MM if you lead him on to no where again. > Figure out where all this stems from and set yourself free! > > http://www.eioba.com/a50632/what_to_do_with_a_woman_who_has_commitment_phobia