I am in a real sticky position. Boy do I need advice.
You see, I am living with a great guy and have been for almost 6 years now. The problem is- he doesn't
sexually appeal to me anymore. Oh I have tried to change that, but it just doesn't do any good.
Now the REAL problem. I AM sexually drawn to his boss. His boss is married with 2 children and he is
also a friend of ours.
The boss wants to have an affair with me and I want to have one with him.
We both know the consequences if we get caught, but right now we aren't worried about them. We haven't
done anything yet except talk about it. He says he will get a room at a nice motel out of town so that we
can be together. He has told me what he wants us to do together and it all sounds great.
I start to wonder at times if this is just a fantasy or if it is the real thing.
See, I have never had an affair before and I have been married twice. Just seeing him though, really
makes my day bright.
He drives by my house and smiles and waves and sometimes he even comes home with my live-in for
a visit. I feel like a teenager with a crush. Even though I am over 40.
The boss phoned me a couple of weeks ago when he took a day off work and we spent most of the day on
the phone. It was GREAT.
He went into detail of how he wants it to be with us. It sounds heavenly.
Am I wrong to want this man. He is the ONLY man I have ever considered cheating with.
If we do this, will there be anyone here that I can confide in?
Please answer soon so that I can have an unbiased opinion. Thanks so much for being here.
Cherry
Dear Cherry,
I hope this is not too late. Well, I write that as if my advice could make one bit of difference in what you
do. I assume that the advice I give gets lots of head nods and sighs, and then everybody goes out and does
exactly what they want to anyway.
Look. If you are finished with your live-in, go through the process of ending it. If you are not sure
if you are finished, tell him that you are unhappy and see if you can work on your relationship.
In the meantime, Why the hell would you want to disrespect him, and yourself, so absolutely, by
boinking his boss?
Affairs happen. People fall in love. They get "that thing" with each other and nothing can stop the
relationship from happening.
Are you there? Honestly? Or are you fantasizing and feeling that wowza sexual charge, wondering if feeling
more of that with this man, his boss, will add the zing to your life that seems to have been lost.
That zing, that thing, is out there waiting for you. Deal with your relationship first before you boink the
boss.
That's my advice. Now, go out and do exactly what you want to do, and realize that you can confide in people
on TOW when the whole thing explodes and you wonder how to get yourself out of this mess.
Love - e
