Lori

My story may sound too far fetched to believe, but being the day before Valetines Day, I almost feel obligated to myself to add my opinions on being the other woman. For the most part, I have been having an affair with a married man for over a year. It did'nt start out as an ordinary affair though, It started all with being best freinds long before he married his now wife, loosing contact for a long time, only contacting friends to say "Hi", and then finding each other after having an extreme run of bad and good luck. We met seven years ago when I worked at a business in my town, he would come in at night to get his coffee and talk. We talked about where he was from, relationships, friends, and how sometimes being in relationships can be so confusing sometimes.

At the time I was in a on agian off again relationship with my ex husband who had just decided that after years of being drunk he wanted to be a better husband and father , so being the dedicated woman that believes in honest relationships, I was willing to give him the second chance for us and our two children. My new found friend was fully supportive of me, always asking on a nightly basis how things were going. I even set him up with a few of my girlfriends and we would go out, but it was always without my husband, which everyone thought was extremely odd, because we were trying to work on a new pending second marriage, but he was never willing to go anywhere with me. I had set my friend up with one of my childhood friends, she became totally smitten with him. Then I did'nt here from him for a few weeks. Next thing I knew he came in to where I worked and stated he was getting married.

The first thing I thought was that he had asked my friend to marry him, but he said that he was marrying a girl he knew a long time ago and that she had contacted him because she had missed him and loved him. I was totally shocked, and alittle pissed off at him for jumping the gun. They were married two months later. I heard from him every few months and he was always concerned about how I was. I did'nt here from him for a long time. In the time he was away I had married my ex-husband but the relationship was all wrong. He was a truck driver and was gone for extended amounts of time, which led to the boredom and the extreme feeling of needing something more.

I proceeded to have my fun by hanging out at all the local bars, not to pick up anyone, but of course, that is what everyone thought. In fifteen years of being with the same man, I really had no intentions of having a cheap affair, but I was so sick and tired of being all by myself. I finally met someone at one of the bars that was who I thought was so cool. He was the bouncer and for some reason all the ladies just thought he was the most amazing thing they had ever seen. He had a southern drawl which just made you melt and he was the type who I found out later on, took advantage of any girl who was in a downtrodden state. Here was drowning `my sorrows in a bar and he was hitting on me. I eventually had an affair with him, got caught , lost my husband , my reputation and all my self esteem in the process. He used my vehicle to travel out of state constantly, borrowed money on a regular basis Moved in with me, then left me to go away "for a couple of weeks, baby, my son needs me."

He left with about two thousand dollars worth of my belongings as well as leaving me with a three hundred dollar phone bill, (he was calling his ex-girlfriend out of state every day when I was at work) the tires I put on his truck that I helped him buy, and then I found out that he had been dealing drugs out of my house!!! I guess I was quite the talk of the town, concidering I don't even like the smell of pot. In the process of all this happening, my friend had contacted a girlfriend of mine to see how I was. She filled him in, and he said that he really needed to talk to me. We made arrangements to meet , I had'nt layed eyes on him in two years. I had spoken to him on the phone and I said to him, "how do you know what I might look like now. I could weigh five hundred pounds and have rotten teeth." He said , " Well, how do you think I look!" When we finally met, he had flowers in his hand, Which I thought was extremely sweet. He took my hands and said to me," I have been in love with you for six years. I think about you all the time , you are my best friend, and I can't imagine being without you in my life anymore." He said he had planned on leaving his wife because there life was "Keeping up with the Jones'. Everything is so materialistic, and fake. He did'nt want to live materialistic anymore he wanted a real life.

He left her, and the stipulation was that I would not see him romantically until he did so. He stayed at my house all the time , but he needed to call her every night because he had to check on his Daughter (She's adopted) He said that everything there was basicaly a mess because bills were not being payed, his wife insisted apon him going to marriage counciling. She would pit his daughter agaist him, saying "Daddy thinks your only worth twelve dollars a day." or He doesnt care about you or me because he left us." One day he was outside my house when I came home. The one thing that I asked him in the beginning was where we were best friends and we never lied to each other, dont ever jeoperdize that friendship by ever doing that to me. I would rather have the truth and live with that, than loose a friendship that we had forever.

He has never lied to me an I know, because we know each other that well to get away with that. When I came home and he was outside, I knew something was very wrong. He was crying, and he said, I know what my heart wants me to do, but I also know what my concience wants me to do. I have to go back. If I dont, I will lose everything that I worked my ass off for. He said I do love you, but she will make life a living hell. She didnt know he was seeing me. She has never liked me even before they got married, and if she ever found out she would drag us both into court and clean house. (Mummy and Daddy have lots of money) He said that when his daughter graduates from highschool, then he can seriously concider where we would be going, and I can understand where he is coming from. His daughter is my son's age, and I know that would cause alot of resentment if she were to know that he was in another home, I respect him for his decision to go back. We talk on a daily basis, and he tells me im beautiful all the time. He comes by before he goes to work, and we do look foward to the day when we can be together. I do know about his personal life with his wife, because he tells me on a daily basis. There is no sex in the relationship, She is quite repulsive, Ive seen her and she is a pig. She is six foot tall and gotta go 375. I swear to god, IAM NOT KIDDING. She is one big momma. I wrote him a valentine for our local paper. It reads like this: GREAT WHITE HUNTER You are my best friend,That is forever, I wish we were never apart, I do love you deeply, that much it's true, You have my sole and my heart. Your beautiful breakfast companion, the early bird that catches the worm. Don't ever give up on a long term goal, patience will endure, be patient and love always comes back. And I know he loves me because we started out as friends first, then worked from there.